Lockdown #3 Spring half term (part 1)

Well, here we are again in another lockdown and now at the end of the first half of the spring term and 6 weeks of homeschooling. I’m not sure where the six weeks has gone, it seems so long since he returned to school on Monday 4th January only for schools then to be closed from the 5th. I remember being as furious as the next parent at the government allowing children to return for one day to then have the rug pulled from under them… that is definitely one way to really mess with children’s mental health! Our Headmistress was furious too! She would be quite happy to open the school up to all children.

Anyway, here we are 6 weeks on and we survived. We are keeping everything crossed that they’ll only be two more weeks of homeschooling after the half term before they can return. I’m sure it will be a staggered return as it was last June but for us that means James will return being in year 1.

Things to be thankful for this time round:

  1. preschools remaining open
  2. snow
  3. google classrooms!
  4. amazing teachers and teaching assistants
  5. homeschooling childcare bubbles!

Thankfully this time pre-schools have been allowed to remain open so I’ve only had one at home to homeschool. I’m not saying it has been easy but it has been easier only having one and being able to form a homeschooling childcare bubble with his best friend and online live phonics lessons with his year groups has allowed some limited social interaction with his peers. On the whole I am very proud of how James and I have risen to the challenge of homeschooling this time round and (largely) maintained our sanity.

I also have to thank Maddie Moat and Gregg Foot at @letsgolive for continuing their live science broadcasts on YouTube, you have been amazing and no doubt will continue to be.

Here’s a few photos of what we have been up to:

James also started Beavers this term and although the meetings are by zoom he has really enjoyed it and has already earned his space badge!

As for me, well I started the IHGS Diploma in Genealogy on 27th January although this is going to be a very slow process to start with until the archives reopen, figures crossed we start coming out of this lockdown after easter. I am very much looking forward to getting stuck into some portfolio research pieces and a given research task.

I have also taken the very difficult decision to cease taking any large projects of work in 2021 due to the currect circumstances with Covid-19 and the uncertainty of the months ahead. My aim for this years is to concentrate on home, family life and my studies with the ultimate aim to relaunch a new website and new research services in January 2022.

In the meantime, my blog will continue intermittently to chronicle my family’s life during these strange and challenging times, and there may be the odd research/family history related blog associated with my studies 😉

We survived Autumn term and a second lockdown!

I know this is my first blog in quite a while (4 months to be precise! eek) but a lot has been happening and I have other things on my mind! SO much has happened in the last 4 months – the return to school and worries about whether they have to close due to covid, two children’s birthdays, a second lockdown, 12 weeks of intensive revision, one exam by zoom, exam results, tiers and no last minute xmas changes!

Where to start? School – we were keeping our fingers crossed last week that we got to the end of term without any covid “incidents”. I am so happy and proud of my son’s school, to say that all but one case in year 5 (my son is in year 1) the school has stayed covid free and fully open just hoping that success continues into 2021. Even better, my daughters preschool has had no cases and remained fully open, largely as an outdoor nursery. Both education settings even managed to perform a nativity play even if it was rather different – no parents but videos shared with parents.

Birthdays – my daughters 4th birthday thankfully went ahead without incident being in September, we even managed a lovely day out at Chessington World of Adventure.

Sadly, my son’s 6th birthday plans had to be delayed after the second lockdown was announced just two days before his birthday and our planned first ever visit to Legoland😢 …. so his birthday celebrations continued 4 weeks later the first weekend after lockdown ended. It was a very cold day but really nice and quiet at Legoland and a brilliant day was had. His actual birthday was enjoyed building his amazing working Lego train set so he ended up having two amazing days.😁

Thankfully, school autumn half term happened just before the second lockdown and we managed to get away to the Isle of Wight for a lovely although rather wet and windy🤣 week. A week of Forts, castles, zoos, trains and beaches. This gave me a much needed break from my intensive revision plan.

After completing the IHGS Higher Certificate correspondence course in March and expecting to take the exam in June the plans were ruined by covid 😢 as have so many plans for so many people. The exam was rearranged for November and fingers, toes and everything else was crossed that it would still go ahead. So as soon as the schools returned in September, my intensive 12 week revision plan began, including further revision workshops by zoom and even some in person. The weeks were passing the revision was going well, a much need break for the school autumn half term was a welcome break and allowed me to assess how much a could remember at the end of a week off revision – I was happy.

We were all a bit on edge about whether the exam would still go ahead with covid cases rising, the new tier system in place, and talk about another lockdown, we were all reassured that the exam would go ahead in one form or another plans were in place for invigilating the exam by zoom…from the comfort of our own homes! 🤣 but we were all still keeping everything crossed for “normal” exam conditions….then cam the announcement – a second national lockdown starting 5 November – REMEMBER REMEMBER THE 5TH OF NOVEMBER – GUY FAWKES AND NOW LOCKDOWN #2 😢 at least the schools were staying open 😌

To be honest for us life carried on much as normal. Hubby working from home, kids at school/preschool and my revision continued, just our son’s birthday was affected. So on we roll…..exam arrangements in place by zoom….the nerves mount as 21 November approached, arrangements made for hubby and kids to go out for the three hours of my exam (I was just praying it was going to be dry!). Then the day arrived, gosh I don’t ever remember feeling as nervous for an exam before – not even my law finals!

I must say the exam was harder than expected although looking back, the preparation I had done did stand me in good stead. In some of my answers I definitely had verbal diarrhoea 🤣 the comforting thing was speaking afterwards to others who sat it at the same time we all felt the same and we all had doubts whether we had done enough to pass. The usual post exam dissection took place in my head trying to work out whether I had done enough to pass (I didn’t care what my mark was after all this time of waiting to sit the exam I just wanted to do enough to pass!) and noting what information I knew I had missed 😬

Three to four weeks of waiting….I tried to put it out of my head and get on with a research project I had taken on….and then I had a week of my daughter being at home with a nasty cold bug – yes it was a cold bug not covid – that certainly took my mind of the exam 🤣

With my exam and lockdown #2 completed time to concentrate on Christmas preparations. Our Christmas tree and decorations went up the last weekend of November – at least a week earlier than normal but we figured we all need cheering up! Online Xmas shopping done – I hate going to the shops at the best of times so Amazon is my favourite website 🤣 and once we had the Christmas “guidelines” arrangements were made for a 5 day trip to Yorkshire to spend Xmas with my parents. It would be just the six of us in our Christmas bubble possibly with a trip for the fours of us to meet my brother and his family outside for a couple of hours on one of the days. So Christmas was planned….or so we thought!

Tuesday 15 December ….. exam results by email day ….. 9.55 am my nerves and anxiety are growing… just after 10am the email is in and I burst into tears at the headline …. tears of relief and joy I PASSED 🎉🥂🍾 What a great end to 2020!

That is until Saturday 19 December 4pm and I can’t say I’m surprised but gutted 😭 (I literally broke down in tears!) that the last minutes announcement and shortening of the Christmas “guidelines” means our Christmas plans are, as are so many, thrown into the air. Thank goodness I’d booked a Sainsburys Christmas delivery slot for Christmas week just in case! 🤣 To be honest every since the rates started rising again we have continued debating with my mum and dad what to do but the decision was made and settled on that we would go up. We were due to be tested the just before hand under the ONS survey we have been taking part in which would give us some reassurance assuming the test was negative! But the decision has been taken out of our hands now, and whilst living in Waverley we are in tier 2 (whilst the rest of Surrey is in tier 4) we are technically able to travel to mum and dad’s the “guidelines” of Christmas day only mean it is just not feasible. Who wants to make a 200 mile round trip for one day? It’s just not worth it!

So its Christmas at home just the four of us and the kids seem fine with it. James (6 yr old son) did say “its sad” but I think he understands and they will still have all their present and we will make the day a special family day. Skype/zoom will be well used …. lets hope the internet and the various companies can cope with what will no doubt be a huge demand!😜

Yes Christmas will be different this year, but it is not cancelled. There will of course be people who go ahead with their plans regardless, everyone has their own opinion. We all need to think about the possible consequences of our actions, make their our own decisions and live with them.






(Traditional English Rhyme – 17th Century)

Remember, remember the fifth of November Gunpowder, treason and plot I see no reason why gunpowder treason Should ever be forgot Guy Fawkes, Guy Fawkes, ’twas his intent To blow up the King and the Parliament Three score barrels of powder below Poor old England to overthrow By God’s providence he was catched With a dark lantern and burning match Holloa boys, holloa boys God save the King! Hip hip hooray! Hip hip hooray! A penny loaf to feed ol’ Pope A farthing cheese to choke him A pint of beer to rinse it down A faggot of sticks to burn him Burn him in a tub of tar Burn him like a blazing star Burn his body from his head Then we’ll say ol’ Pope is dead. Hip hip hooray! Hip hip hooray!

Our Family (Un)lock down summer blog

And just like that they’re back at school, six weeks of summer holidays gone in a heart beat and it definitely feels for us as though life is very much back to normal – our new normal – pubs, shops etc reopening has had very little if any impact on us (save for our week away – more below) as they are not activities regularly frequented by this household anyway! In fact I hate shopping in shops much prefer online shopping! It was very stressful taking the kids to our local Clarks shoe shop for their feet measuring and new school/preschool shoes. although I was very impressed with the set up in Clarks and definitely think they should keep their booking system for their busy periods for kids!

Its hard to believe it is almost 6 months since the country went into lock down, and we’re now counting down to a 4th and a 6th birthday and Christmas!

So how was your summer in this unlocking of society times? Ours, well it was quite quiet really spending the first four weeks in a family bubble with my parents who were finally able to bring their caravan down from Yorkshire to Surrey for their usual summer getaway with us. So nice to see them in person and spend to quality time with them for the first time since Christmas, the kids loved it! With the fabulous weather we had, they even got Nanna and Granddad in the swimming pool with them (and my mum can’t swim and is not keen on the water!) 😂❤

It was just unfortunate that the good weather didn’t last for our weeks away in Salcombe which had been booked way before lock down. The weather was cooler, a bit wet and by the end of the week rather windy! But the kids still had a great time especially rock pooling catching crabs, shrimps and even some small fish!

We have had a summer of confidence knowing we were Covid free having being randomly selected and agreed to take part in the Office of National Statistics Covid-19 testing survey, being tested on 5 consecutive weeks and now monthly for the next year. I know the survey is expanding so I would urge anyone who is selected to take the opportunity – not only does it give you some peace of mind that your are not asymptomatic but also helping the research into the spread of this virus.

So today is back to school/preschool day. They were so excited to be going back, although I think Rose wishes she was starting big school (she’ll be 4 two weeks today so just misses out this year!) 🤣


With them back at school and life feeling very much back to normal, I am enjoying a peaceful house – although hubby is working at home permanently now (save for one day a week) and having a couple of days to take some time for myself before its back to revision and countdown to me IHGS Higher certificate exam on 21st November, which was postponed from June and then on to the IHGS Diploma in Genealogy starting in January. In between I will still be taking on a limited amount of work to keep me ticking over and give me a break from the studies!

In the coming months, I will also be starting a series of blogs specialising in family history research and records available for your Surrey Ancestors, both online and in various archives. Not all records covering Surrey are available at the Surrey History Centre! So I have lots to keep my going and occupied so I don’t miss the kids too much 🤣❤

If you have ancestors from the Surrey or South East area and would like to find out more about them, check out my Research Services and Family Tree Packages pages to see how I can help.

Ask AGRA: Family History Question Time

Listen to my colleagues and I discuss a variety of topics in this series of Podcasts – I will feature in the October podcast talking about getting started with your family history research and some of the common pitfalls we all fall into from time to time!
 Podcast series from the genealogy experts – first episode 1st September. Do you have a question for a future episode?

We are excited to announce that we are starting a series of themed podcasts (Ask AGRA – Family History Question Time) to be streamed on this website.

This initiative has been developed in response to the COVID pandemic. Many consumers took the opportunity to begin researching their family history during the lockdown, but the closure of archives and cancellation of family history fairs and events has presented challenges which normally our members would help to resolve. Now, the free AGRA podcasts will be available to all, the first series of six to be made available monthly from 1st September 2020.

AGRA members will form panels of experts in discussions led by Moderators such as Sarah Williams of Who Do You Think You Are? and Helen Tovey of Family Tree magazine. Some well-known authors and experts in their field will be adding their voices to the discussions including Gill Blanchard, Dr. Geoff Swinfield, Les Mitchinson and Simon Fowler, to name but a few.

The six themes will be as follows, broadcast on the 1st of each month:

House Histories – September
Ancestral research – getting started including understanding BMD and Census records – October
Research before 1837 – November
Military research including British service in India – December
DNA testing and use in conjunction with genealogical research
 – January 2021
Using land records such as maps and tithe maps to further research – February 2021

Sharon Grant, Chair of AGRA commented “AGRA is excited to announce this new initiative which demonstrates our commitment to finding new ways of working in these times of crisis. Our members have always been available at the various family history events to give advice to members of the public. We miss that, and we know you do too. This is an opportunity for you to access the extensive expertise and knowledge of our members from the safety of your own home. Get your questions in now!”.

The first in the series will go live on September 1st 2020 at of the public are invited to submit general questions about the subjects to ask the panel on the above themes at

Our family lock down blog – Schools out for summer

Well, it’s seven weeks since my last lock down blog but where has that time gone?! Its been a busy few weeks but on the whole with the easing of lock down measures and the kids being back at school and nursery it has felt pretty much like life has returned to normal in the Pettyfer household! Sometimes to the point you really do have to think about it on those occasional trips to the shops!

James has loved been back at school and I must say how impressed I am with how Cranleigh Church of England Primary School have managed and adapted to the measures and rules they have had to adopt, and how well the children have adapted to their ‘bubbles’ and generally just ‘got on with it! They are the only local school to have managed to get all their year groups back (even if only for the last two weeks) and full time. The teachers and staff have clearly worked very hard to adapt the school and their teaching practices. It is certainly a different end to James’s first year at school with us missing out on being able to attend events such as sports day, but the children have not missed out in fact they have had a sports week this week, just a shame we weren’t able to attend.

James got a great end of year report, and it’s amazing how much he has learnt in a year, even with 10 weeks of that been homeschooling! We wait with some anticipation what the new school year will bring!

I am equally as impressed with Acorn Nursery School which my daughter Rose had been back to two days a week. We were very lucky that she was able to return as the limited places were reserved for those starting school in September – Rose has another year yet, so she’ll be back at pre-school, but she will be soooo ready for school next year!

Rose and I have had some fun at home

We have also enjoyed some of our favourite places to visit as a family with the easing of lockdown…..Winkworth, Fishers Farm, Hatchland Park, Alice Holt Forest

And we are so pleased children’s outdoor play areas have been able to reopen 😁

We are now on countdown to a day out at Peppa pig world and our week in Salcombe and before you know it James will be starting year one and school, Rose will be starting pre-school and we’ll be applying for her school place for next September! But first, we are all very much looking forward to my parent coming down from Yorkshire with their caravan and forming our family bubble with them for a few weeks. Other than on Skype, it have now been seven months since we have seen them and it will be so nice for them and us to be able to spend some quality time ❤

As for me, on ‘my days off’ from being a mum I have been busy working on a large research project for a client, with shoemakers, weavers, bakers and publicans amongst some of the professions of the ancestors. Archives are now beginning to reopen albeit it with strict measures in place and limited numbers but it is good to know research will no longer be limited to resources available online once again. After the summer holidays I am looking forward to getting back to the wonderful smell of old documents.

In the meantime I also need to busy myself with revision for my postpones IHGS Higher Certificate exam now due to take place on 21 November with the hope of starting their Diploma course in January. So, it is going to be a busy but I’m sure lovely, summer and keeping out fingers crossed the second wave of Covid 19 is not as harsh on our society than the first 🤞🤔


Week 10 of our family lockdown – Spring Half Term week

Week 10 saw half term week from school and preparations for the much anticipated return to school for James and nursery for Rose. I don’t really know where the week went – fast! Thankfully with the nice weather much of it was spent is the garden and in our new pool – helping us to enjoy our staycation and trying not to remember that we should have been spending the week sailing the Ionian Islands in Greece 😥 The weather was such that it did keep reminding us – the sun and the mid/late afternoon breeze is just like the weather we have usually had in Greece at this time of year – the best sailing was always in the afternoon.

It was a pretty uneventful week. Rose did however get the hang of peddling her bike, now she just needs practice and the same confidence she has on her balance bike and hopefully she’ll be away without the stabilisers. 😊

We did have a couple of hours our on Wednesday with a nice walk on Holmbury Hill and a picnic. And Saturday we had a few hours and picnic out at Alice Holt Forest. Really good set up there the car park was strictly controlled to keep it half empty to ensure there were not too many people about and everyone we saw was keeping to the rules. In fact everywhere we have been, people seem to be adhering to the rules.

Of course we are now slowly coming out of lock down now and who know what will happen but for us nothing much will change, in fact the kids going back to school/nursery will mean it will feel pretty much back to ‘normal’ for us. I’m not one for going to the shops any way – I hate it would much rather shop online! so them opening will not change anything for us as a family, the only other thing we long await is the leisure centre being able to re-open so that the kids to restart their swimming lessons. And of course, we are all hoping parks and children/family themed places such as our beloved Fishers Farm are able to reopen for the school summer holiday.

I am a little late writing this blog, it now being two days into week 11 and James having started back at school yesterday. He was so excited bless him and less than half the class returned so even less of a worry – not that I was worried anyway (but I can understand those who are and haven’t sent their kids back – not criticism of anyone, each has to make there own judgement and decision, I am sure if I lived in some other parts of the country my decision would be different!). It was much quieter at home yesterday without him! Not as much squealing from Rose or the constant din of children playing 🤣😍 It was also nice to spend some time in our pool with just Rose, with James splashing all the time practising his swimming 🤣

They all came out of school with happy smile on their faces having had a great day and the teachers were all so proud of them and how well they had dealt with all the changes and rules. Rose is so looking forward to returning to nursery tomorrow (Wednesday) for a couple of days a week – and so am I – looking forward to having some time to actually do some jobs without the constant interruption 🤣😘

So here is our week in pictures….

Well, given we are somewhat back to normal for now I think this is the last of my weekly blogs for a while. They may return the the school summer holidays but for now I will reduce them to monthly blogs so Ill be back with out June blog in a few weeks.

Week 9 of our family lockdown

With the country now technically no longer in lock down but we’re now being asked to stay alert, it has felt like a more ‘normal’ week albeit more like a school holiday week than a school week. I must say with the lovely weather we have had this week, there has been little homeschooling and more ‘nurturing’ in our house.

Whilst James has done a small amount of school work – practising writing and some maths games

we have mainly concentrated on out mental health, getting out and about a little – visiting and exploring Chilworth Gunpowder Mill trail where the kids loved playing pooh sticks in the stream and enjoyed a lovely walk through what seemed like a wilderness with the area largely being left and being a little overgrown (especially around the picnic area), learning about grinding stones and dragons teeth.

We also spent a day at the beach this week (Littlehampton a 22 miles drive) whilst we hoped it might be quieter than next week when it is half term! it was the hottest day of the week and although it was quite busy there was plenty of space and (most) people were sensible and mindful of the 2 metre rule. We had a lovely day and it was nice to just have a normal family day out with a picnic.

James has also been very busy building with his knex …. i’d almost say he’s obsessed with it!

Coming up to the end of the week we are reminded that come Sunday we should have been flying off to Greece for our weeks sailing holiday which has now of course had to be postponed for a year 😢. So how do we console ourselves and make it feel like a staycation rather than just another week? With a new swimming pool for the garden – yes swimming pool not paddling pool! OK so we may have gone a little over the top with a 12 foot pool 🤣 but the smaller ones were all out of stock and the kids just couldn’t wait … although I’m not sure who was more excited about it me of the kids! 🤣🤣🤣 Its already been worth the money even if we have to wear wet suits on the colder days!!!! 😍and so looking forward to spending a lot of time in it over the half term week!

So here’s to week 10, bank holiday Monday, half term week, and looking forward to a return to a ‘new’ normal with James back at school and Rose back at nursery (albeit only two days a week for Rose). I’m not getting into that debate …..

Week 8 Our Family lockdown blog

Another week has gone by but at least now we can start to see some light at the end of the tunnel after the slight easing of the lock down rules last Sunday evening. I could ramble on now about everything that has happened on the covid-19/lock down/stray alert/media speculation causing the so called public confusion – I certainly wasn’t confused by the message! But I won’t ramble on as this is not a place for political debate but a blog recording my family’s experiences of covid-19.

What I will say is that I will be sending my son back to school on 1 June (or whenever they reopen) because what is clear is that this virus is not going away, we are going to have to adapt our lives and learn to live with it. Waiting for a vaccine – that may never come – is not an option, I for one do not want to put my life or my children’s lives on hold. Even if there is a vaccine, the virus is not going away, the only disease ‘successfully’ eradicated by vaccination is small pox, and there will no doubt be a major debate and concern about any vaccine (as there still are today about many of the long standing vaccines) meaning many people and children won’t get vaccinated in any event (I have seen such comments in social media), so lets start getting back into a new kind of normal as soon as possible.

I know this will be controversial and I can understand why some parents will not wish to send their children back to school and if we had anyone in our household in a high risk group then my view would be different so I certainly will not criticise any parent who does not send their child back to school when they reopen – it really does have to be an individual family decision.

Anyway, a part from me having a minor bump in the car (with an parked unattended vehicle) because the electronic handbrake failed in my rush to do something 😱🤦‍♀️🤬 which shook me up a bit, it has been a pretty ‘normal’ week. We have learned about Oceans with @maddiemoat, @gregfoot #letsgolive, made a rock pool, build a coral reef, painted more rainbows (they were fading fast in the sun!) and ocean pictures for out front window. James has been practising his writing, and building k’nex whilst Rose has been hibernating in her ‘Frozen’ tent 🤣🥰

Today (Sunday) we had our first trip out in the car a little bit further afield to get a change of scenery for the afternoon, the first time we have been out of our village of Cranleigh for over 8 weeks! And what a lovely afternoon explore and adventure we had round the historic 13th century ruin of Waverley Abbey, finding the largest Yew tree I have ever seen! Check it out below!

So, here is our week in pictures…..

and here’s looking forward to week 9 of lock down, and what will hopefully be our last week of homeschooling……

Our family lockdown blog week 7 and VE Day celebrations

Well, we are now at the end of week 7 and I almost forgot to write this weeks blog! Its been a bit of a tough week, not with the kids bit because I have been feeling exhausted and for three days my joints were aching – I felt very old! It did go through my mind that it may be this horrid virus but I developed no other symptoms and was fine after three days so I put it down to age/hormones/stress/life….🤣🤣🤣

My schooling for James this week revolved around VE Day although he did do some of his ‘proper’ school work. It was great – he learnt some new (difficult) words, such as fighting, celebrate and liberation. He also learnt who Winston Churchill was. I don’t think he really understood what WW2 was all about but he understood what VE Day was about – or PE Day as Rose (aged 3&1/2) says 🤣 I think they were just looking forward to the afternoon picnic tea on Friday afternoon in the front garden – something different.

I must say I found the day rather emotional, 2 minutes silence remembering my granddad and all my relatives who lived through WW2 in whatever capacity; listening to Winston Churchill’s victory speech and singing THE song of WW2 “We’ll meet again” … a song so appropriate for many times but especially in these times not knowing when we will be able to visit my parents again and/or vice versa. It’s going to be an emotional reunion when we can. I think!

It has been a lovely week weather wise, meaning lots of playing out in the garden and some long (well for the kids anyway) walks, from home of course.

What has been making my blood boil this week is the media… Its them not the politicians that are reporting speculation which some people take as gospel and truth and causing all the confusion the media say the public have about the lock down message at the moment. They are not reporting facts but speculating on what changing may be brought is and then they criticise the government and ask the same stupid questions time after time to get the same answer because there is no other! They try to trip the politicians up and twist everything they say. The public would not be confused as the media suggest we are (I’m not – stay at home remains the message as I write this…what happens later is another thing!) if they stopped reporting such speculation! It does not help the confusion!

Anyway, less of that! Here’s our week in pictures …….. ration books, air raid shelters, hop scotch, Morse code, baking…..and playing football in the street! What was really nice as well, is that his best friend, Lucy, lives in the cul-de-sac across the road from us which had their own social distancing street party to which we were invited for a short time allowing the kids to play football together – with us continuously enforcing the social distancing rule on them which was OK until we said goodbye and James and Lucy wanted to give each other a hug – the funny elbow handshake made up for it 🤣 It was great to see them have half an hour of ‘almost’ normality 😘💕

Graeme and James even found time on VE Day to repaint our front door and garage door….

Now we wait to hear Boris’s plans at 7 pm tonight for our slow move out of lock down 🤞 for a back to school date (albeit likely part time until the summer holidays)